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Premarital Couples Counseling

What to Expect in Premarital Couples Counseling with Brian

Thank you so much for thinking about working with me in Premarital Couples Counseling.  Many couples that go through this process have told me that they felt so much more prepared for how to navigate marriage and to also not be surprised by the unexpected issues.  

My Premarital Couples Counseling process typically involves 6 sessions.  I will ask you to take an online couples relationship assessment.  Both the Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Prepare Enrich have online assessments, and at the end of our first session I will be able to assign the one that is most appropriate for you.  

The remaining sessions will be devoted to reviewing the results.  I will help you understand the results.  We will have lots of conversations that will help you increase understanding of your partner and so that you both can talk about how you might handle issues and situations moving forward.  There will also be lots of activities in session around communication, conflict management, stress and other topics.  You will also have a little bit of homework outside of the sessions to reinforce what you learn in sessions.  

 

If you would like to begin, you can click the "Book the Session" below and let's get started.  Additional below is more general information about Premarital Couples Counseling. 

 

 

What is Premarital Counseling

 

Premarital counseling is a type of counseling that is designed to help couples prepare for marriage. It typically involves working with a therapist or counselor to discuss various topics and issues that are important for couples to address before they get married. The goal of premarital counseling is to help couples develop a strong and healthy relationship, and to equip them with the tools and skills they need to navigate the challenges and difficulties that may arise in their marriage.

During premarital counseling, couples may discuss a wide range of topics, including communication skills, conflict resolution, expectations for marriage, financial management, family planning, and more. The counselor may also help the couple identify any potential areas of conflict or concern, and provide guidance on how to address these issues in a healthy and constructive way.

Premarital counseling can be beneficial for couples of all backgrounds and beliefs, and can help to strengthen their relationship and increase their chances of having a successful and fulfilling marriage.

Who is Premarital Counseling Best Designed For

 

Premarital counseling can be beneficial for any couple who is considering marriage or a long-term committed relationship. Whether a couple is planning to get married in the near future or is simply committed to building a strong and healthy relationship, premarital counseling can provide valuable support and guidance.

In general, premarital counseling is best designed for couples who are:

  1. Considering marriage or a long-term committed relationship: Premarital counseling can be particularly beneficial for couples who are considering making a lifelong commitment to each other. By addressing potential areas of conflict and learning important relationship skills, couples can build a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling marriage.

  2. Open to learning and growing: Premarital counseling is a process of learning and growth, and it requires a willingness to be open and honest about one's feelings, needs, and concerns. Couples who are open to learning new skills and strategies for building a strong and healthy relationship are more likely to benefit from premarital counseling.

  3. Willing to invest time and effort: Like any form of counseling, premarital counseling requires a significant investment of time and effort. Couples who are willing to make this investment, and who are committed to working together to build a strong and healthy relationship, are more likely to see positive results from premarital counseling.

  4. Interested in improving their relationship: Premarital counseling is not just for couples who are experiencing significant problems in their relationship. Even couples who are generally happy and satisfied with their relationship can benefit from premarital counseling by learning new skills and strategies for improving communication, managing conflict, and building intimacy.

 

Overall, premarital counseling is best designed for any couple who is committed to building a strong and healthy relationship, and who is willing to invest time and effort in learning important relationship skills and strategies.

Type of Issues Couples Cover in Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling is a valuable opportunity for couples to learn about and discuss a wide range of issues that are important for a successful and fulfilling marriage.

 

Some of the key issues that couples may address during premarital counseling include:

  1. Communication: Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. During premarital counseling, couples may learn about effective communication skills, such as active listening and assertiveness, and may practice techniques for expressing their needs and desires in a positive and constructive way.

  2. Conflict resolution: All couples experience conflict from time to time. During premarital counseling, couples may learn how to manage conflict in a healthy and productive way, such as by using "I" statements and taking a break when things get heated.

  3. Expectations: Couples may have different expectations about their roles, responsibilities, and goals for the future. Pre-marital counseling can help couples identify and discuss these expectations, and find ways to compromise and work together towards shared goals.

  4. Finances: Financial issues can be a significant source of stress in a marriage. During premarital counseling, couples may learn about budgeting, saving, and managing debt, and may develop a plan for handling their finances as a team.

  5. Intimacy and sex: Couples may have different levels of sexual desire or may have differing expectations for intimacy. Pre-marital counseling can help couples discuss these issues and find ways to meet each other's needs in a healthy and fulfilling way.

  6. Family dynamics: Couples may come from different family backgrounds and may have different expectations about how family relationships should work. Pre-marital counseling can help couples learn about each other's families, discuss potential areas of conflict, and develop strategies for managing these issues in a healthy way.

  7. Personal values and beliefs: Couples may have different religious, cultural, or personal beliefs that are important to them. Pre-marital counseling can help couples learn about each other's values and beliefs, and find ways to respect and honor these differences within their relationship.

 

By addressing these and other important issues during premarital counseling, couples can develop a deeper understanding of each other, build a stronger and more resilient relationship, and set themselves up for a successful and fulfilling marriage.

What Types of Premarital Counseling Methods Do I Use?

 

Gottman Method for Premarital Counseling

The Gottman Method is a type of couples therapy that is based on the research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman, who are well-known relationship experts. The method is designed to help couples improve their communication, build trust and intimacy, and learn skills for managing conflict and maintaining a healthy relationship.

The Gottman Method typically involves an initial assessment of the couple's relationship, which includes a thorough evaluation of their strengths and areas of concern. The therapist then works with the couple to develop a treatment plan that is tailored to their specific needs and goals.

The core principles of the Gottman Method include:

  1. Building a strong foundation: This involves developing a deeper understanding of each other's needs, values, and goals, and strengthening the friendship and emotional connection between partners.

  2. Enhancing intimacy and communication: This involves improving communication skills, increasing emotional intimacy, and learning how to express love and appreciation for each other in a meaningful way.

  3. Managing conflict: This involves learning how to manage conflict in a healthy and productive way, and developing strategies for resolving disagreements and differences of opinion.

  4. Supporting each other's goals and aspirations: This involves learning how to support each other's individual goals and dreams, and working together to achieve shared goals and aspirations.

 

The Gottman Method is evidence-based and has been shown to be effective in helping couples improve their relationships and reduce the risk of divorce. It is often used by therapists and counselors who specialize in couples counseling, and can be a valuable tool for couples who are seeking to strengthen their relationship and build a strong and healthy future together.

Prepare Enrich Couples Method for Premarital Couples Counseling

Prepare Enrich is a well-known couples therapy program designed to help couples prepare for marriage or strengthen their existing relationship. The program includes an online assessment tool that helps couples identify their strengths and areas for growth in areas such as communication, conflict resolution, financial management, and more.

The Prepare Enrich program is based on research and has been used by couples and therapists around the world for over 35 years. The program is often used in premarital counseling but can also be beneficial for couples who have been together for some time and are looking to improve their relationship.

The program typically involves the following steps:

  1. Couples complete an online assessment: The assessment is designed to help couples identify their strengths and areas for growth in areas such as communication, conflict resolution, personality, and more.

  2. A trained facilitator provides feedback: A trained facilitator meets with the couple to provide feedback on their assessment results and to help them identify areas for growth and improvement.

  3. The couple works on skill-building exercises: The facilitator provides the couple with exercises and activities to help them improve their relationship skills and build a stronger, more resilient relationship.

  4. The couple continues to work on their relationship: The skills and strategies learned during the program are intended to be applied throughout the couple's relationship, helping them to maintain a strong and healthy connection over time.

 

Overall, the Prepare Enrich program is designed to help couples build strong, healthy, and fulfilling relationships by identifying and addressing potential areas of concern and providing them with the tools and skills they need to navigate the ups and downs of their relationship.

Benefits of Premarital Counseling

There are many benefits to premarital counseling for couples. Some of the key benefits include:

  1. Building a strong foundation for marriage: Premarital counseling can help couples develop a deeper understanding of each other and build a strong foundation for a successful and fulfilling marriage.

  2. Improving communication: Communication is key to any healthy relationship. Premarital counseling can help couples develop effective communication skills, such as active listening and assertiveness, which can strengthen their relationship.

  3. Identifying and managing potential areas of conflict: All couples experience conflict from time to time. Premarital counseling can help couples identify potential areas of conflict, such as finances or family relationships, and develop strategies for managing these issues in a healthy and productive way.

  4. Learning important relationship skills: Premarital counseling can help couples learn important relationship skills, such as problem-solving, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation, which can be applied throughout their marriage.

  5. Strengthening intimacy: Intimacy is an important aspect of any healthy relationship. Premarital counseling can help couples develop a deeper understanding of each other's needs and desires, and find ways to strengthen their physical and emotional intimacy.

  6. Building a support network: Premarital counseling can provide couples with a support network of professionals and resources, which can be invaluable as they navigate the ups and downs of marriage.

  7. Lowering the risk of divorce: Research has shown that couples who participate in premarital counseling are less likely to divorce. By building a strong foundation for their marriage and developing important relationship skills, couples can increase their chances of a long and happy life together.

 

Overall, premarital counseling can provide couples with a wealth of benefits, from strengthening their communication and intimacy to reducing the risk of divorce. By investing in their relationship and learning important relationship skills, couples can set themselves up for a successful and fulfilling marriage.

Get Started With Me in Premarital Counseling Today

 

There is no better time than today to get the process started for Premarital Couples Counseling.  The easiest way to start is to click the "Book Session" button below.

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